How do I get My Girlfriend to Dress Better & be Less Complacent about her Appearance?

Canadian Talk Show Host Susan McCord discusses a question from her advice column Dear Sybersue.

Neil wants to know…”My girlfriend of 4 months dressed really nice in the beginning of our relationship and took time with her appearance in every way. I also took care of myself and looked good for her.  Now that we are in an exclusive partnership, she doesn’t seem to care anymore!  I am losing my attraction towards her because of her complacent attitude!

I am not a shallow guy but I feel like she was being false in how she presented herself initially to me.  I am a casual dresser for the most part and do not expect women to be all decked out in designer clothing, but is it too much to ask that she could brush her hair and put on a nice shirt and pair of jeans…

What should I do? I am tired of seeing her walking around in baggy sweatpants!”

Susan McCord @

Dear Sybersue ~ Why Can’t I Get Past the First 3 Dates with Men? What am I doing Wrong?

Canadian Talk Show Host Dear Sybersue (Susan McCord) answers a question from Caroline on her advice column. “What am I doing wrong that I can’t seem to get past the first 3 dates with men? I have no problem meeting guys and getting dates but they seem to lose interest in me quickly! Help!”

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Online Dating: People who are married or in a committed relationship pretending to be single!

Canadian Talk Show Host Susan McCord & Co-host Andrea Wesley draw attention to something that is happening a lot! Online Dating Discussion ~ People who are married or in a committed relationship who are pretending to be single!

How do you know when someone is authentic and what should you look out for?  There are plenty of red flags but many people choose to ignore them because they would rather be choice number two or three than be alone.  Men and women who allow these scenarios think that they will be “the one” to change them and eventually they will want a committed relationship! If you think that is ultimately what you deserve that is where you will end up.

When people are ready for a relationship they do not play games or pretend to be single etc. When you meet someone online who is always busy or only has 1 night every two weeks to see you, only comes to your place and doesn’t take you out on dates but says all the “right” things, they are playing you!  The faster you move on from this type of behavior the closer you will come to meeting a person of substance and sincerity. There are some amazing people online so don’t get discouraged; just learn how to quickly eliminate the ones that only “talk the talk.”

Susan McCord @
Andrea Wesley @


Dating Advice ~ Bring Back the DIARY

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I first started to write when I was 10 years old and haven’t stopped since. As a very confused young girl I didn’t have a mentor or confident that I could go to for help with the numerous questions I had in life. I actually had an old fashioned diary that I wrote my every thought in on a daily /weekly basis. It became my trusted friend that I could vent to without being judged and it allowed me to express my thoughts as honestly as I could. It actually pushed me to discuss things regularly because it became my “safe place” to go.

What are the benefits to writing down your thoughts?

  • You would be surprised how therapeutic it is!
  • It allows you to think about things before you vent them out loud.
  • It prevents you from texting or emailing someone before you have time to analyze a heated situation.
  • Reading over some of your thoughts a few weeks later can add clarity to what you might not have seen at the time.
  • It can show a repetitive pattern in how you handle things especially in your dating life!
  • It may make you aware of things that are really bothering you internally that you are uncomfortable discussing out loud.

We can learn a lot about ourselves by reading over our thoughts that we put down on paper. (There is something calming about holding a pen in your hand and writing the old fashioned way.) After reading my diary again in my early 20’s, I realize how messed up I was as a teenager and how much drama I had allowed into my life! Reading it all again actually helped me grow in a new direction. I was still repeating some emotional mistakes that I clearly saw in my written words 7 years previous!  That was a big wake up call.

Your childhood and teen years can really play a huge part in your dating, and future career choices. These are the formative years and the foundation of who we are. This doesn’t mean if you have an unhappy situation that it can’t be corrected with a new change of course, but you have to be able to “see and own” the problem before you can correct it.

Some people think of their diaries as a special friend, even going so far as to name them. Anne Frank called her diary “Kitty.” It became Anne’s personal space where she could always visit. This may sound very sad to most people, but staying in touch with one’s self can keep you sane in times of loneliness. Knowing who “you” really are is a reality not everyone embraces. Loving and appreciating yourself is a maturity that helps a person reach new goals, because they believe in themselves.

Keeping a record of your daily life provides you with a tool with which to reminisce, providing an album of past thoughts, feelings, and life events. In other words a diary or journal can be used not only as a tool for great memories but also as a cure for past hurts. This can help a person to see his or her perspective of those situations as they were being experienced. Self awareness is always a learning process regardless of each approaching birthday. Life lessons are continually put on our path until the day we leave this earth.

Many people do have a Daily Journal but how many actually take the time to write down their personal thoughts? I am surprised how many individuals are open to saying they see a therapist or that they are taking anti-depressants but do not take the time to write out their feelings.

There are Dating Diary Apps that you can buy online which have entries for their photos, date locations, what you wore, first moves and odd or interesting facts. This is probably more for “serial daters” who want to keep track of their numerous conquests so they can keep it in check should they date them again! It may save some embarrassing moments down the road! Not that I am condoning this type of dating behavior. ;)

Marilyn Monroe kept a red diary that was said to have caused some havoc with Robert Kennedy and his “people” due to its contents. A diary is supposed to be personal and it is really nobody’s business but yours. Be careful if you are dating high profile types or someone who is married! (Look what happened to Hollywood Madame Heidi Fleiss, with all the celebrity client information she had written down for her business!) Today there are more condemning problems with online content than anything written, but it is still wise to keep anything you write about private.

Tuck your diary away for safe reading every few months to see how you have evolved. It is a great keepsake for later years when you want to walk down memory lane. It is amazing how many experiences we forget we had and how important a role some of them played in our future growth. It is never too late to start a diary and never too late to learn who you are. Our thoughts become actions so writing them down and seeing them in print will help you to see what is working and what may need some attention. Whatever the case, it will help you grow into a better you.

Susan McCord @

A Discussion on Youtube Bullying & Celebrity Bashing

Canadian Lifestyle Advice Talk Show Host Susan McCord & Her Co-host Andrea Wesley discuss the topic ~ Why is There so Much Bullying on YouTube!  Why are some people so mean and what is the purpose of posting nasty comments on people’s YouTube channels. Most of them are too much of a coward to put up a profile photo and hide behind the mask of the computer so no one knows who they are. Does it really make them feel better to squash others? Is it OK to bully celebrities just because they are in the public eye?

Please leave your comments below the video. We want to hear your theory!

Susan McCord @
Andrea Wesley @

Dear Sybersue! A Dating Book for Men & Women that Makes you Think!

Canadian Talk Show Host & Author Susan McCord, discusses her book Dear Sybersue.

What is this dating book all about? The male interviewer in this video read it and loved it! A great read for both sexes whether they are single, divorced, dealing with a breakup or trying to maintain a committed relationship! A great read for both men and women who need advice on how to find and keep love in their lives. Stop sabotaging your own happiness due to blaming others and not believing you deserve a loving partnership. Find out how by reading Dear Sybersue! Now available at Smashwords, itunes,, Amazon.India. Amazon.UK, and Barnes & Noble

Susan McCord @

Radio Interview Sunday Sept 14th 2014 with NewsTalk1010



Really looking forward to my Live  interview on Canada’s biggest talk station: this Sunday at 8:15pm ET (5:15pm PT) with a condensed look at my new book #DearSybersue and a few questions from #VinneyWhite ( about how to live and love in the modern urban world.

Tune in for a Candid discussion on Dating ~ What’s working and what isn’t! Do men and women need a reality check? Are both sexes to blame for the changes that have taken place in the last 25 years? Maybe we ALL need to take a look in the mirror at what we are projecting to others. After all, we are in charge of ourselves and our own happiness at the end of the day.

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