Dating & Relationship Advice ~ Why do Women Only Remember the Good Things After a Breakup?

Women are always upset that men move on so quickly from a relationship breakup. One of the biggest reasons is; men are very aware of why the partnership ended and have gone over it in their mind months before they actually walk away.  Women are left to pick up their shattered hearts & make sense of it all. “What the Hell just happened here & why did I just get blindsided??”

Many people do not see the changes that were slowly occurring within the relationship or they were ignoring them & hoping they would just go away. If  they were to be honest with themselves, the signs were there. It usually takes a few months or in some cases many years to understand what happened. In the meantime many women hold onto all the little things that were good in the relationship! This is very true in abusive relationships as well. It’s as if  women talk themselves into seeing the good in their relationship so they don’t have to alone ~ regardless of how bad it really is.

Is selective memory the problem with why women have a harder time getting over a breakup?

It doesn’t mean you are being negative about the breakup by remembering some of the bad things ~ you are being realistic! Put away the photos, the love songs, facebook,video clips or emails of the two of you during your time together. Torturing yourself remembering the few good times will keep you from meeting someone you could have a loving relationship with. You can be facebook friends down the road if you need to be, but initially he needs to be “out of sight out of mind” until you are strong enough not to shed anymore tears thinking about him.

Ladies ~ your Ex is not pining over you so it is time to forgive, forget & move on! Put the ice cream back in the freezer, shut off the tear jerking chick flicks & visualize a new you. He did you a favor, you just don’t know it yet…

Susan McCord @ http://www.yinyangtalk.com