Men & women always talk about relationship red flags but they often chose to ignore them.

It is important in the early stages of dating to use your intuition or gut instinct & really pay attention to who this person is.  Being overly judgmental is one thing but refusing to acknowledge obvious problems could lead to an abusive or destructive relationship down the road. If you become “too sexual too quickly,” you may be blinded by some of the flags waving away in front of you. Get to know them a little first before you become seduced by their charms.

What are some of the Red Flags you have experienced? Please leave your comments below!

Susan McCord @ http://www.yinyangtalk.com
Andrea Wesley @ http://musictomysoul-tulip.blogspot.ca/

Dating & Relationship Advice For Men & Women:

Taking a break in a relationship has become the easy way out of an inevitable break up.

What the heck does “We are taking a break in our relationship” really mean? So many people are doing it today & how do they get away with it? It is the same as having your cake & eating it too ~ you may as well cut off a big piece & spoon feed it to them!

This is the lazy & insincere person’s way of ending a relationship, because they don’t want to be alone right away. They want to be able to lean on you when they can & keep their options open. Both sexes initiate this scenario today, especially in the twenty something crowd. Wouldn’t it be better to stay single & date rather than have to hurt someone in this manner? It is not a nice place to be as it is seldom reciprocated.

What are some of the reasons for couples to want to take a break?

• They are easing into a full time breakup.
• It can be used as a threatening tool to get something more out of the relationship that they are not receiving.
• It allows more nights out with friends or separate vacations.
• Stalls the marriage discussions.
• Trying to keep them interested by being evasive & playing hard to get.
• Being more in control

Ultimately taking a break means the relationship is over. If you are bored, or have fallen out of love, what is a break going to do? You can’t force yourself to love them? If you take a break & then end up getting married down the road, it usually ends up in divorce because the same problems are still there that always have been. People do not change that much.

What does this “Break” entail?

• Are you allowed to have sex with others?
• Do you see each other at all?
• Are you still having sex with them and have now basically been demoted to a booty call?
• How long is it for? Is there a set time limit?

This scenario is not a good situation to fall into. You are temporarily on hold to see if they can find someone better than you. There is a chance that they may “settle for you” if nothing comes along but will you ever feel good about that? Don’t ever put yourself number two. If a relationship is right, it really isn’t that much work. When two people really love each other they want to be together. They are not happy being apart.

Ending a relationship with someone is one thing as it gives both people a new beginning, but being the person that doesn’t want to “take a break” is hanging around waiting for someone to decide whether their partner wants to be with them or not. Why ever put yourself in that position? So the next time someone asks you for a break tell them “sure, I was going to ask you if I could date your best friend this week anyway.” See how that goes over…

Susan McCord @ http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers
Andrea Wesley @ http://musictomysoul-tulip.blogspot.com

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What do you think?

Susan McCord @ http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers
Andrea Wesley @ http://musictomysoul-tulip.blogspot.com

Dating/relationship Advice:

What would you do if an old flame or past love contacted you on Facebook or other social media? Would it make a difference if you were in a relationship? Would you tell your partner?

Susan McCord @ http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers
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OK ladies listen up…This is what men want to see when they first meet a woman. Simple advice from a man on dating & what attracts them. Definitely worth a watch!

Susan McCord @ http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers
Steve Malcolm @ http://www.ittakesballstoknit.com

Do men really know how to entice a woman that they are interested in? Many men are confused about what to do these days with so many independent women out there! These simple tips will get you talking to the woman of your dreams.

Susan McCord http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers
Steve Malcolm http://www.ittakesballstoknit.com

(Sorry the video quality is not my usual. This video was taken with an Iphone but it is worth the watch.)

Betty White at the Comedy Fest in Vancouver, BC. Global BC TV hosts Randene Neill & Sophie Lui interview Betty on everything including her skit on Saturday night live! An audience member goes on stage to show Betty her tattoo & guess what it is?

Susan McCord http://www.interviewtalkshow.com

Toronto Talk Show Host Rebecca Rosenblat, interviews Dating/Relationship/Lifestyle Host Susan McCord with regards to her expertise on men & women in the dating market today. What needs to change & how can we improve on the “gender connection.” We must stop stereotyping the opposite sex & sabotaging potential partnerships! Get off the computer & start talking to each other face to face.

Susan McCord @ http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers
Rebecca Rosenblat @ http://www.drdate.com

We all have a friend that tells us everything about their relationship whether we want to hear the sorted details or not. Do they want us to just listen to their stories or are we allowed to partake with an opinion or two?

What is the proper etiquette?

When you are “asked” for advice you are permitted to offer a diplomatic response, but it may not be appreciated if you harshly attack their decision about something personal they are dealing with in their relationship. Be careful how self righteous you appear, as it is their life and you may have different values. We all need guidance at certain times of our life but our teachers should be caring & non judgmental to help us learn how to improve our lives without feeling overly criticized.

How well do you know them to offer them advice?

• What type of friendship do you have with them?

• Are they introverted & keep to themselves?

• Do they ever offer you any advice?

• Have you had personal talks in the past?

• Do they consider you one of their closest friends?

• Are they emotional, sensitive or confident?

Questions to ask yourself when listening to someone’s advice:

• Do you trust their sincerity?

• Are they jealous of you in any way?

• Do they flirt with your date/partner?

• Are they constantly talking behind peoples’ backs?

• Do they truly have your best interest at heart?

• Are they in a happy relationship or looking for one?

• Are they constantly critical towards you or loving & caring?

When being asked for your advice, how honest should you be?

If a good friend is repeating a continually negative or abusive dating pattern and constantly complaining about it, you have every right to speak up. Depending on how this is verbally delivered could be helpful or futile in your relationship with them. Friendships can change drastically when someone criticizes without using diplomacy. Ridiculing someone’s choices needs to be avoided unless there is a known danger to that friend. People want their friend’s approval but seldom welcome a negative lecture. (Telling someone their boyfriend/girlfriend is unattractive, too short, overweight, not ambitious or rich enough is not constructive advice, it is an unnecessary opinion.)

Advice should be gentle and not accusing. If you see a pattern with a friend that is harmful, point out a few scenarios that you have noticed, maybe they do not know this is recurring. This scenario can happen in a long term relationship as well. Your friends may see something harmful or deceitful between you & partner, and want you to know because they care.

In all honestly, wouldn’t you want to know?

Advice can be a good thing when it is handled with respect and good intentions. Don’t wait too long before something is discussed & try to do it at the time you are aware of the situation. Letting it build could cause you to react more aggressively than you initially intended because you are now past the point of frustration.

Advice should be limited with friends and family, as they have to make their own path in life. If you are constantly feeling the need to give advice to the same person, then maybe you need to surround yourself with other people and not constantly put yourself in the Ann Lander’s role. Do you want to be a counselor all the time? Be a friend but worry about your own choices in life first, not theirs. Being a good friend is also knowing when to back off and knowing when to be there to wipe their tears. A supportive friendship is a two way street and advice should always be reciprocated with warmth & love.

Susan McCord @ http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers

What would your Twitter Dating Profile say?

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